Self-Sabotage or Simple Choice? The Truth That Changes Everything

There’s a lot of talk out there about self-sabotage.

In fact, in Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine, you’ll find an entire framework built around identifying and understanding your internal saboteurs—like The Judge, The Pleaser, The Victim, and The Avoider.

It’s powerful work. It brings awareness to the unconscious patterns that shape how we think, feel, and act.

But what often gets lost in the conversation is this:

🟡 These saboteurs don’t actually speak. They don’t have a voice of their own.

Your inner dialogue doesn’t come with a tone. It’s just words—neutral phrases—scrolling through your mind like an LED screen.

The tone you hear? That’s something you assign—often without realizing it.

You hear a thought like “You should’ve done more today,” and your brain automatically delivers it in The Judge’s voice.

Or “Just say yes, keep the peace,” and you hear The Pleaser running the show.

But here’s what I want you to consider:

If you’re assigning the tone... You can also change it.

And when you stop defaulting to those roles—when you stop treating every contrary action as “sabotage”—you reclaim the truth that unlocks everything:

💬 It was just a choice. One that was contrary to what you meant to do, wanted to do, or thought you “should” do.

That’s it.

You didn’t sabotage your progress. You didn’t get ambushed by an internal villain. You made a choice.

And choice is something you can examine, learn from, and do differently next time.

When we label everything as sabotage, we make ourselves the obstacle. We turn normal decision-making and human moments into a crisis of identity.

But when we name it truthfully—“I didn’t follow through today. Why?”— we stop dramatizing and start building momentum.

That’s the work I do in Master Your Inner Dialogue. Not to silence the internal voices—but to help you hear them differently. With more clarity, more choice, and more self-trust.

Because that’s where real change happens.

“I didn’t do what I said I would. That’s information. What do I want to learn from it?”

That one reframe can shift everything—from judgment to curiosity, from stuck to clear, from possible to inevitable.

When you stop seeing yourself as the obstacle,

you start seeing yourself as the path.

✨ And that changes everything.

What would change if you stopped calling it self-sabotage and started owning it as choice? Maybe your next best move would present itself.

🔗 Ready for support to go from possible to inevitable? Book your Next Best Move Strategy Call today.