25 Signs Self Trust is Lacking

1. Second Guessing Every Step

Constantly revisiting your decisions and wondering whether you made the right choice is a classic sign of self-doubt. To counter this, own your decisions ahead of time by deciding that you will embrace the learning from your experiences to inform future decisions.

2. Indecision: Caught in the Spin Cycle

Indecision can be paralyzing, preventing progress and growth. Overcome this by telling yourself the truth about what you want and that this choice is optional.  Even when it doesn't feel like it.  By alleviating the pressure of thinking it has to be made and that there is a right or wrong decision, clarity can be gained about what you really want and why you may be afraid to make it.

3. Overthinking: Weighing All the Options

While careful consideration is valuable, endlessly mulling over options can lead to analysis paralysis. Decide ahead of time what are the most important factors in your decision.  Then implement a time-bound research phase, followed by a commitment to decide. Trust that your thoughtful exploration will guide you to a suitable choice.

4. Researching Without Results

Endlessly researching without reaching a conclusion often masks underlying fear. Explore the fear first to determine if it's warranted or not.  If it is, what can you do to alleviate the danger?  If it isn't, ease your fear with kindness and compassion while moving forward.

5. Waiting for the "Right" Time

Perfectionism can breed procrastination. Acknowledge that waiting for the perfect moment might mean waiting forever. Embrace the notion that the best time to act is often now.

6. Seeking Constant Validation

Relying on others' opinions showcases a lack of self-confidence. Recognize that external validation is awesome but is infinitely more enjoyable when it is unnecessary. Prioritize self-validation by being your own best cheerleader!

7. Mulling It Over Excessively

Endless rumination can lead to unnecessary stress. Interrupt the pattern by quieting your mind, focusing on the words and answering them with an "and"statement.  

8. Fearing What Could Go Wrong

Focusing solely on negative outcomes reinforces self-doubt. Challenge these thoughts by consciously exploring positive potentialities and envisioning success.  Giving, at least, equal airtime to what else is possible opens up the world from just good or bad, to the glorious possibility in between.  

9. Waffling Between Choices

Flipping between decisions showcases uncertainty.  Remember that indecision is a decision that is made for you when you don't decide on purpose.  Harness your deliberate power to choose instead of letting the decision be made for you.  

10. Worried About Others' Opinions

Fear of judgment can hinder authentic decision-making. Remember that people's opinions are subjective, and you should prioritize your own values and desires.

11. Perpetual Need for More Information

Information gathering can become a crutch. Set a threshold for the amount of information needed and trust your ability to make informed choices.

12. Never Getting Started

Waiting for inspiration often results in inaction. Cultivate discipline by committing to regular action, even when motivation wanes.

13. "When/Then" Procrastination

Linking actions to specific conditions delays progress. Break this cycle by acting independently of circumstances and taking control of your choices.

14. External Distractions and Excuses

Using distractions as a way to avoid decisions is a self-sabotaging behavior. Develop strategies to manage distractions and allocate dedicated decision-making time.

15. Dwelling on Past Failures

Past mistakes don't define your future choices. Embrace them as valuable learning experiences and leverage them to improve your decision-making.

16. Negative Self-Talk and Self-Worth Issues

Challenge negative self-talk by reframing your thoughts and embracing self-compassion. Believe in your capability to make sound decisions.

17. Fear of Failure and Perceived Inadequacy

Recognize that everyone experiences failures. Reframe failures as stepping stones toward growth and success.

18. Blaming External Factors

External factors can influence outcomes, but taking ownership of your decisions empowers you to create change.

19. Waiting for the "Right Conditions"

Requiring perfect circumstances stifles progress. Accept that challenges are part of the journey and take action despite unfavorable conditions.

20. Succumbing to "It Doesn't Matter" Thinking

Every decision contributes to your journey. Remind yourself that your choices hold significance and can shape your path.

21. Giving Up Too Easily

Persisting through challenges builds resilience and self-trust. Develop a growth mindset that embraces setbacks as opportunities for learning and improvement.

22. "I Should Have Known Better" Regret

Release regrets about past decisions. Instead, focus on using the lessons from those experiences to make better choices moving forward.

23. Self-Comparison and Imposter Syndrome

Comparing yourself to others undermines self-trust. Celebrate your unique journey and accomplishments, recognizing your value.

24. "I Don't Want To" Resistance

Dig deeper to uncover the reasons behind your resistance. Address underlying fears and concerns to facilitate more authentic decision-making.

25. Feeling Behind and Overwhelmed

Break tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate small victories and use them as motivation to overcome overwhelm.

Building Self-Trust: Your Journey to Empowerment

Cultivating self-trust is an ongoing journey that requires commitment, self-awareness, and self-compassion. Recognize that the indicators of a lack of self-trust are opportunities for growth. Implementing these strategies will empower you to make confident decisions, navigate challenges with resilience, and embrace the transformative power of self-trust on your path to success and fulfillment. Remember, you possess the innate ability to trust yourself and create the life you desire.