Seeing Beyond Self Sabotage

Apr 17, 2024

When reaching for business goals, whether revenue or impact related, the single most used reason for claiming self sabotage is a lack of follow through.  And look, your goals do require follow through.  And sometimes you say you are going to do something and don't.  And sometimes you say you aren't going to do something and you do.  

How very incredibly human of you! (Me too!)

So how can you be both human AND follow through on the steps that will create the goal success you want?  I promise you that it doesn't start with pointing fingers and blaming ourselves for being human.  And that is what gets me riled up about self sabotage.  It creates an adversarial relationship within when what your goals, and  you, need is a unified front.

Seeing Beyond Self-Sabotage

When we label our actions as self-sabotage, we're basically setting up an internal battle.  Pitting self against self. It's like saying, "Hey, you're your own worst enemy!" But here's the kicker: your brain is just doing its thing. It's literally wired to protect you from danger and keep you in your comfort zone. So when you try something new or challenging, it's only natural for your brain to raise a few red flags.

Listening to Your Brilliant Brain

Instead of beating yourself up or trying to ignore what you think is self-sabotage, try listening to what your brilliant brain is trying to tell you. It's not trying to trip you up; it's trying to keep you safe. Take my client Amy, for example. When she wanted to expand her business, her brain went into overdrive with all the worst-case scenarios. But instead of ignoring those concerns, we sat down and listened to what her brain was saying. And you know what? We found actual potential obstacles that could be turned into opportunities.  If dismissed or pushed through, she would have missed a valid concern and the opportunity to preempt it.  If shrugged off as self-sabotage, she would have shrugged off the chance to recognize a truth and own a choice that made her proud as a business owner.  

The 3E Success Method: Streamlined Goal Achievement 

Now, let's talk about how to break free from the self-sabotage cycle and start crushing your goals. My 3E Success Method: Streamlined Goal Achievement is all about making decisions, following through, and having your own back. It's about trusting yourself and acknowledging, preparing for and getting ahead of bumps in the road along the way. When you approach your goals with this simple self trust fueled plan, you'll be amazed at what you can achieve.  It is both fueled by and builds self trust so that you can create a unified internal (and external) approach to your goals.

Two Mindset Shifts for Success

Here's the thing: you don't have a self-sabotage problem; you have an opportunity for open dialogue. Instead of viewing your thoughts as roadblocks, see them as invitations to check in.  And remember, you don't have to believe everything you think.  Ask yourself- is this thought something I want to believe or is it an invitation to remind myself of what I actually believe.  Focus on moving toward what you want, rather than away from what you fear.

My goal for you is simple: stop seeing yourself, or any of your thoughts, as the enemy and start creating a trust fueled relationship to you and your goals. Trust yourself, listen to your inner wisdom, and move towards your goals as a unified front. 


Are you feeling overwhelmed by the noise, internally and externally, hindering your follow-through on business and career goals? It's time to break free from the cycle of doubt and frustration. That's why I created The Self Trust Lab – to provide a clear path to success while nurturing a trusting relationship with yourself. With our streamlined approach, you'll gain the tools and support needed to crush your goals with confidence. Join us today and embark on a journey towards achieving your dreams with self-trust as your guiding force. It's not just a better way; it's the beginning of what you can achieve with a self-trust fueled cycle of success. Take the first step and join The Self Trust Lab now!

Stay connected with news and updates!

Join our Self Trust email community today and begin receiving tips, tools and challenges direct to your inbox.

🔒Privacy Policy: We hate SPAM and promise to keep your email address safe.